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Angry Young Men

How Parents, Teachers, and Counselors can Help "Bad Boys" become Good Men

by Aaron Kipnis
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Aaron Kipnis, Angry Young Men: How Parents, Teachers, and Counselors can Help "Bad Boys" become Good Men (San Francisco, CA: Jossey-Bass, 1999). Order on-line

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Angry Young Men: How Parents, Teachers, and Counselors can Help "Bad Boys" become Good Men
by Aaron Kipnis

Some Troubling Facts About Boys
from the book

author Aaron Kipnis, Ph.D.
Aaron Kipnis, Ph.D.

Aaron Kipnis, age 13
Aaron at age 13

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Troubled Boys

Here are Some Troubling Facts About Boys, excerpted from Aaron's book.

Publisher's Synopsis

At the century's end, crime is down from its all time records. But the incidence of destructive behavior among American boys remains alarmingly high. Substance abuse, suicide, assault, gun-carrying and homicide rates still exceed, by far, those of all other industrialized nations. This compelling book by former "bad boy" Aaron Kipnis examines the lives of boys at risk and suggests ways we can help them to thrive and make positive contributions to life. Angry Young Men offers specific, practical advice for parents, teachers, counselors, community leaders and justice professionals. It is a riveting, expert account for everyone concerned about how we can save our young men.

Aaron Kipnis writes from personal and professional experience, sharing both the riveting story of his own troubled youth-and how he turned himself around—and the successful approaches he has used to help bad boys become good men. Kipnis, a nationally respected educator and consultant in clinical psychology today, was first incarcerated at the age of eleven when he ran away from home after a beating. Having previously lived a large portion of his childhood in foster care, he spent most of the next seven years living in temporary housing, locked institutions or on the streets. Rather than surrendering to this downward spiral, however, he changed course, devoting his professional energies to similarly affected boys and young men. In Angry Young Men he weaves together his life experiences, research, and clinical observations to offer clear and practical suggestions for how we all can help at-risk youth.

"The majority of difficult, troubled, criminal, and even violent young men can lead whole and productive lives when given the right opportunities and leadership", Kipnis says. He points out that most of the young men in American prisons today were first incarcerated for nonviolent crimes. Instead of receiving the help they need there, however, most boys return to society with their initial troubles only further aggravated by the violent world behind bars.

But there is hope. This book tells parents exactly what they need to know if their boy is having trouble socially or emotionally, in school, or with drugs or gangs. It offers educators insights into how to work with disruptive boys. And it shows counselors, justice professionals, and community youth leaders how to build trust and affect change with troubled youth. Angry Young Men offers compelling strategies for everyone who wants to help at-risk boys become strong, productive, caring, and compassionate men.

Praise for Angry Young Men

One of the most important books written in the last decade.
- Robert Bly, author of Iron John and The Sibling Society

With stories of the triumph of human courage against insurmountable odds, Aaron Kipnis clearly demonstrates that redemption, human dignity, and transformation are possible among the most troubled of our youth.
- Dr. Robert E. Roberts, Executive Director, Project Return, Tulane University Medical Center

In this well-written book, Kipnis inspires us to recognize and to nurture the essentially wonderful spirit in every child.
- Peter R. Breggin, M.D., author, The War Against Children of Color and Talking Back to Ritalin

Everybody committed to increasing our public safety will benefit from the effective strategies for healing 'bad boys,' thereby enabling them to become productive adults rather than career criminals.
- Senator John Vasconcellos, chair of the California Senate Public Safety Committee

A compelling work that deeply moves and educates you as it seeks to build an informed and inspired advocacy for at-risk boys and young men. Kipnis arms us with healing alternatives that are within our reach. Essential reading.
- Dr. Mary Watkins, clinical psychologist; author, Waking Dreams and Invisible Guests.

Aaron Kipnis' story of childhood homelessness, drugs, and prison exposes our wealthy country's cruelty toward youths and suggests why, astonishingly, today's bad boys are doing much better than we have a right to expect.
- Mike Males, author, The Scapegoat Generation and Framing Youth.

With unique passion and insight, Aaron Kipnis shatters the myths about troubled young men in our society. A compassionate look at at-risk youth that compels each one of us into action.
- Michael Gurian, author, The Wonder of Boys and A Fine Young Man.


Aaron Kipnis, Ph.D. is president of The Fatherhood Coalition, a non-profit organization dedicated to aiding men in developing the skills and resources needed to best parent their children. He is the author of Knights Without Armor, co-author of What Women and Men Really Want, and has written many book chapters and articles on topics concerning male roles and relationships.

As co-directors of the Gender Relations Institute, Aaron and his partner Liz Herron, facilitate male/female communication workshops nationwide and hold private consultations with couples and individual clients in Santa Barbara, California. Private intensives are also provided there for out of area clients. Dr. Kipnis is on the core faculty of Pacifica Graduate Institute where he trains graduate students in clinical and depth psychology. He is an international speaker and consultant on male psychology to myriad professional organizations, universities and training institutes. His most recent book is: Angry Young Men: How Parents, Teachers, and Counselors can Help "Bad Boys" become Good Men. (Jossey-Bass Publishers, Oct., 1999)

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