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Sometimes it seems difficult to be a father, in this day and age. Is David Blankenhorn right in his book Fatherless America? Are fathers valued, or deemed "non-essential"? What are the joys and challenges of being a father—or a non-custodial single father—or a father of children with special needs? Here are some thoughtful and moving articles on this subject. These themes are explored in an interview with Michael Gurian, author of The Wonder of Boys.
Luis Rodruíguez, an award-winning poet,
has worked with Michael Meade at multicultural events for youth for a number of years. Portions of his memoir, Always Running: The Vida Loco, Gang Days in LA (order on-line) have appeared as spots
on National Public Radio. During my interview with him Luis said he wrote his story in hopes of helping keep his son and his "homies" out of trouble. Here's the interview.
The next two articles are personal stories, from a mother and a single father, about the challenges of raising boys.
The next article is by the father of a boy with Attention Deficit Disorder and Turette's Syndrome. Followed by two articles about fathers of kids with special needs.
There's also an article on the effects of divorce on children. Children need both parents.
We also have book reviews and articles on the socio-political aspects of fathering. Be sure to check out our review of David Blankenhorn's Fatherless in America.
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Overcoming Barriers to Fathers, by Ross D. Park and Armin A. Brott. What can we do to overcome obstacles that keep fathers away from their children? (Adapted from Ross D. Park and Armin A. Brott's Throwaway Dads: The Myths and Barriers that Keep Men from Being the Fathers They Want to Be)
The Wonder of Boys: An Interview with Michael Gurian, by Bert H. Hoff.
Fathers Needed Why fathers are important in a child's life. By Kyle D. Pruett
Gang Youth, Art and Soul, An Interview with Luis Rodruíguez by Bert H. Hoff
Fathers and Daughters. Women talk about the importance of fathers in their lives.
Fathering as a Spiritual Practice, by Craig Scott Weiss
Aftershave On My Apron, advice for at-home dads from Anthony David
Raising Male Chauvinist Pigs, by CarolAnn Jarnagin. A mother looks at her husband's role in raising sons.
Holding Levi's Hand, by Craig Scott Weiss
Diapers Have Two Sides, by David C. Duncan. A personal story.
Wyrd Kids and Planetary Survival, an article about the "differentness" of boys with ADD or Tourette syndrome, that also speaks to men with adult ADD.
Images of Fathers, by James May. It begins, "As the Project Director for the National Fathers' Network, I have spent the past ten years crisscrossing the country helping set up support groups for fathers of children with special needs. ... It has been a grand time, both in terms of seeing much of this country and the diverse people who inhabit it, but also in meeting men who share a common experience, endeavoring to be the best possible dads for their children with disabling conditions or chronic illness. I have been touched and often moved to tears hearing the stories these men share with each other. When I reflect on these travels, I find poignant images and memories full of wonder and delight, all saying something important about fathers and their desire to be competent, concerned caretakers. "
Fathers Day in the Projects, by Dean Hughson
The Big Game. Here's one of the stories James May found, or rather, that found James May. It's one of over 40 stories on James' Fathers Network site.
The impact of divorce on children An article by Dr. Robert Hughes, University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign
Books on fathering. Here's a list from the King County Public Library, compiled by Craig Scott Weiss.
Commitment:
Fatherhood in Black America, by photographer Carole Patterson and others. Coffee-table book celebrating fathers. Reviewed by Bert H. Hoff (order on-line)
Making a Commitment to Fatherhood, by David A. Ault.
Where Are the Boys? by Christina Hoff Sommers. Speech based on the themes of her book The War Against Boys: How Misguided Feminism Is Harming Our Young Men.
The Father Challenge, by Kent Cumbo. From Mentor Magazine.
Foster Dad, by Neal Lemery. From Mentor Magazine.
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Check out our sections on Bringing Up Boys and Fathers
Book Reviews
 Fathering: Strengthening Connection With Your Children No Matter Where You Are by Will Glennon Review Order on-line |
 The Expectant Father: Facts, Tips and Advice for Fathers-To-Be by Armin A. Brott and Jennifer Ash Review Order on-line |
 The New Father: A Dad's Guide to the First Year by Armin A. Brott Review Order on-line |
 Michael Gurian, Boys and Girls Learn Differently!: A Guide for Teachers and Parents
Review
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 Kyle D. Pruett, Fatherneed: Why Father Care Is As Essential As Mother Care for Your Child Excerpt Order on-line
Paperback Hard Cover
|  The Good Son: Shaping the Moral Development of Our Boys and Young Men , by Michael Gurian Review Order on-line Order audio book on-line |
 Michael Gurian, A Fine Young Man: What Parents, Mentors, and Educators Can Do to Shape Adolescent Boys into Exceptional Men.
Order on-line Hard cover Paperback
| Father and Child Reunion: How to Bring the Dads We Need to the Children We Love by Warren Farrell Order on-line
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 Christina Hoff Sommers, The War Against Boys: How Misguided Feminism Is Harming Our Young Men
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 Michael Gurian, The Wonder of Boys: What Parents, Mentors and Educators Can Do to Shape Boys into Exceptional Men.
Interview with the author RealAudio Webcast of excerpts Order on-line Order audio tape |
 Angry Young Men: How Parents, Teachers, and Counselors can Help "Bad Boys" become Good Men by Aaron Kipnis
Info about the book Order on-line |
 Steve Biddulph, Raising Boys : Why Boys Are Different-And How to Help Them Become Happy and Well-Balanced Men
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 Throwaway Dads: The Myths and Barriers That Keep Men from Being the Fathers They Want to Be. by Ross D. Parke, Armin A. Brott Review Order on-line |
 Still A Dad: The Divorced Father's Journey by Serge Prengel Order on-line |
 FatherTime: Stories on the Heart and Soul of Fathering by Christopher Scribner, Ph.D. and Chris Frey, M.S.W. Order on-line |
 James Garbarino, Lost Boys: Why Our Sons Turn Violent and How We Can Save Them
Review, More information Order on-line |
 Fatherless America by David Blankenhorn Review Order on-line |
 Dewitt Henry (Editor), James Alan McPherson (Editor), Fathering Daughters : Reflections by Men
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|  Real Boys: Rescuing Our Boys from the Myths of Boyhood by William Pollack
Review and synopsis from Amazon.com
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 Passions of Fatherhood by Dr. Sam Osherson Review Order on-line |
Art Kline, Dad & Son: A Memoir About Reclaiming Fatherhood and Manhood. Read our review by Halim Dunsky. Order on-line
Commitment:
Fatherhood in Black America, by photographer Carole Patterson and others. Coffee-table book celebrating fathers. Reviewed by Bert H. Hoff (order on-line)
Check out our on-line bookstore shelf for books on
Fathers, Fathering and Being a Father
Check out MenWeb's section on Fathers.
Related Web sites:
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FatherLove, created by Craig Scott Brooks-Weiss, is the central information source for fathering in the Puget Sound area. "FatherLove is a grassroots organization committed to encouraging and strengthening
positive father-child relationships.
We work to improve the often negative social perception of men as nurturers. Men, women,
fathers & mothers, service providers, and the community in general need to learn
about the healing, transformative power and realistic benefits of fathers' attention and love.
FatherLove provides information, research summaries, training and other resources to all
of these groups, in order to create opportunities for fathers to engage meaningfully in their
children's lives."
FatherLove recently sponsored a Father of the Year "What My Father Means to Me" essay contest. Winners were honored at a Seattle Mariners game. The winning essays from the school kids (grades 1-12) are beautiful and moving. You can read them on-line at the FatherLove Web site.
A Father's Journal "One man's attempt to ride the ship of fatherhood
through the turbulent sea of culture." This man has written his thoughts on being a father in three volumes:
Becoming a Father, Settling In, and Looking Out.
Fathering
Magazine An on-line magazine of articles, information and links for
fathers. This site also has a number of insightful articles on the more general toplic of gender justice.
FatherNet FatherNet has a wide range of articles for fathers and
research and policy papers going back to 1991, when the Children,
Youth, and Family Consortium at the University of Minnesota first
began a Gopher site. It also has the electronic continuation of
Family Re-Union III: The Role of Men in Children's Lives, a
national conference on family policy moderated by Vice President
Al Gore and co-sponsored by the Consortium and the Tennessee
Department of Human Services.
National Fathers Network James May has been a man with a passion, and heart, working in the Seattle area (and nationally) for years and years, supporting fathers of children with special needs. Fathers of Down Syndrome kids, for example, face unique challenges. It's a delightful gift to the world, that he is able to offer his help, support and encouragement through this Web site as well.

Interactive Dad - iDad James May has been a man with a passion, and heart, working in the Seattle area (and nationally) for years and years, supporting fathers of children with special needs. Fathers of Down Syndrome kids, for example, face unique challenges. It's a delightful gift to the world, that he is able to offer his help, support and encouragement through this Web site as well.
Perspectives on Fathering Stuart Birks and Paul Callister at the New Zealand'based Center for Public Policy Evaluation have put together an excellent series of papers on fathering. "This collection of papers presents a range of perspectives and viewpoints on fathers, the part they play in raising children, and the policy issues that affect them. Major issues are the challenges and barriers faced by some New Zealand fathers in being positive and involved parents, and the recognition that many fathers are, in fact, taking on new roles in parenting. We hope this collection will help by stimulating further debate." "Laurie P'Reilly's paper addresses the importance of good fathering. The papers by Ian Pool and Sarah Hillcoat-Nallétamby, and Paul Callister present a broad overview and identify trends in family structure and father involvement. Rex McCann, Warwick Pudney and Harald Breiding-Buss consider a range of perspectives on the role of fathers. Pam Hutton and Trudy McNaughton address the issue of "family-friendly" workplaces, and Keith Rankin considers the part played by tax and welfare policies. Felicity Goodyear-Smith looks at the sensitive area of child maltreatment. Mark Henaghan's paper focuses on the processes of Family Court, proposing an alternative approach which might provide speedier and more consistent resolution of disputes. Stuart Birks then looks at some of the less supportive attitudes towards fathers that are sometimes observed.
The Effects of Divorce on Children Article by Robert Hughes, Jr., Ph.D. University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign
Divorced Dads Has a bulletin board, articles, and the like. In one poem, "Ode to Dads," a mother writes of the inequalities a divorced dad faces.
National
Center for Fathering Todays Father magazine provides an on-line presence and a wealth of tips and
information on fathering. The mission of the National Center for Fathering is to inspire men to be better fathers and to develop practical resources to prepare dads for nearly every fathering situation.
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Achilles Heel Issue 24 Issue 24 of this UK pro-feminist magazine is devoted to fathering. On-line content includes "Young Dads Too
Mark Osborne describes his experience of running a pioneering project for young fathers"and "How much have fathers changed and how much more change is needed? Tim Khan looks at fatherhood today."
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