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Swallowed by a Snake

The gift of the masculine side of healing

Book review Copyright © 1997 by Bert H. Hoff

Thomas R. Golden, , Swallowed by a Snake: The gift of the masculine side of healing (Los Angeles, Golden Healing Publishing, 1996). Click here to order direct from MenWeb.

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Swallowed by a Snake
by Thomas R. Golden
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A lot of Men's Work involved men getting in touch with their feelings, their emotions. Anger. Depression. Grief. Tom Golden's book about men and grief well deserves to be in the triad of books I recommend, along with John Lee's Facing the Fire (men and anger) and Terry Real's I Don't Want to Talk About It. Tom's book has one feature that recommends it to men, since a lot of men don't buy "self-help books" and are skeptical about "psychobabble." It is short, simple and straightforward. For all that, it offers a lot of insights that men can relate to. And a lot of insights for women, why may not understand that men grieve differently from women, and are not always comfortable sitting around and talking about their grief. He talks about how other cultures do a better job of honoring men's ways of grieving. He tells how his father's friends "grieved by doing," while the women were in the kitchen talking over coffee.

I've recommended this book to many people - men and women alike. They've all bee glad I did.

I'm not quite sure what more to say about this excellent book. Tom says it so well, in the two excerpts we have on our Men and Grief page. That page also has a link to Tom's power story about his own ritual of planting a tree for his father. I invite you to listen to MP3 excerpts: Segment 1 Segment 2 Segment 3

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Tom Golden on CNN

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Author and grief expert Tom Golden talks about men and grief. Tape from a seminar for therapists, on men and grief.

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Our culture is, perhaps, the only one that doesn't find a way to let men express and release their grief. Listen to grief expert Tom Golden, author of Swallowed by a Snake, talk about multi-cultural perspectives on men and grief.

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Grief expert Tom Golden talks about how men handle emotions. Men and women handle emotions differently. We need to recognize this and find ways, other than "talking therapy" to help men handle their grief, according to grief expert Tom Golden.

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Grief expert Tom Golden talks about how men grieve. Men and women grieve differently. Neither way is "right" or "wrong," "better" or "worse." We need to recognize and respect these differences if we are to help men handle their grief, according to Tom.

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Related stories:

 

 A Man's Grief , An excerpt from Tom's book Swallowed by a Snake, which first appeared in the November 1994 issue of M.E.N. Magazine.

 Men, Grief and Ritual, Another excerpt from Tom's book Swallowed by a Snake, which first appeared in the January 1995 issue of M.E.N. Magazine.

 A Tree for My Father, Tom talks about a ritual he did on the death of his father.

 On the Anniversary of My Father's Death, by Tom Golden

 A Ritual for my Father, by Bert H. Hoff


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